To See Or Not To See

 Let's uncover the mystery as to how this superstition began and discuss the pros and cons of seeing each other before the ceremony.

Back in the era of arranged marriages, a daughter was considered the property of her father. Futures and husbands were chosen for them without asking their opinion. In the case of a not-so-attractive woman, a marriage was often arranged with a man from another town and the two would not meet until the day of the ceremony. More than once a bride was left at the alter when a prospective groom changed his mind upon viewing his soon-to-be wife for the first time. Hence, the superstition was born that it is bad luck to see the bride before the wedding.

Today, the wedding day will most likely not be the first time a groom sees his bride, so while the chances of being left at the alter are small, some still believe it's bad luck to see each other before the ceremony. There are many good reasons to buck tradition when it comes to this issue; reasons that will relieve stress and calm pre-wedding anxiety. We've listed a few of them below:

  • For the highly emotional couple, the build-up to that huge moment may be too much to bear. Ever seen home videos of a bride or groom passing out at the alter? Enough said.
  • Seeing each other before the wedding provides a great opportunity to take pictures. More than one bride has felt rushed when taking pictures after the ceremony. You may feel so hurried to get to your guests waiting at the reception site that you might not get all the shots you want of you and your husband. Also, what beautiful pictures you will make with your hair and makeup freshly done.
  • Some couples may prefer to arrange a special moment before the ceremony. Some may like the intamacy of seeing each other for the first time when it's just the two of you rather than seeing each other for the first time in a room packed full of family and friends. You'll also be able to express your feelings for each other at that very moment in a way that can't be done in the wedding chapel.

But for those die-hard traditionalist, the reason to hold on to this superstition is simple. Seeing each other before the ceremony might detract from the magical moment that most brides have dreamed of since childhood...their fiance being left speechless, awe-struck and teary-eyed at the mere sight of their beautiful bride walking down the aisle.